Wooba I am so desperate to get to the same place as you, and build my resilience, patience and compassion. You are an inspiration, you really are.

I take my H’s words and actions as personal but I know that inside he is deeply troubled and depressed. He tries to convince himself that getting back together will work out ok, but something isn’t right for him and he randomly thrashes around with seemingly irrational explanations for things that are wrong. H also grew up with a dysfunctional family unit and I wonder how much of his behaviour is linked to his ambivalent attachment style that is surely an output from his upbringing.

{{Hugs}}


M:49 H:49
T:20 M:18
D:16 D:14

EA: Feb 2019-May 2020
Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020
H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020
EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020
Recon #2: since Nov 2020