Quote: even the worst behaviors are manifestations of fear and that shedding personalization and ASSumptions and embracing a willingness to accept the other person as they are
Beautifully written! This in itself would be a huge 180 for me in every R...romantic or otherwise and I completely agree with you.
Quote: I'm not sure it "works" or that it "works" for all sitchs or whatever...Actually, I AM pretty sure that there's no one sure fire technique...that's pretty fundamental DB'ing, no? do what works....without saying exactly what that is.
I agree here as well. I know what was working so I'll go back to that. Thank you for your insight, advice, suggestions...we have to try everything to figure out what works!
Quote: anyway, in your particular sitch, I just have this sense (MHO ONLY) that your h is looking for a way back IN...wants to believe that things can be different and more positive...
I was starting to feel this way...until these last two days. Not too sure now.
Well, enough hijacking. My thread is, as always, full of details.
Not too sure now.
