WW post D (Thanks BenB part 3)

[Mumin]

Thanks again for your comment earlier LH. IT helped me realize her side and validate more tonight.

Came home just before bedtime and helped put D3 to bed (D3 wanted me to).
After me and W spoke a bit about the kids and their weekend.
Then I said that now I know I can buy her share of the house, said I talked to bank and that he needs to agree to a lower valuation of the house, sign asset lists etc..
Convo went something like this:
W- Im sure you parents are happy it will be a lower valuation
Me - No. We havnt really talked about it. (Though we have)
W - Everything feels so strange.
Me - Yes I understand, we have both been in limbo. Its been rough.
Silence.
Me - Last we spoke of the house you wanted me to buy you out.
She said something about she had been thinking about whats good for the kids.
I said, if I can buy her out I want to. Kids get to stay here at least part of the time.
She talked more about how it is tough and said she feels like shes about to cry constantly.
W - Havent really stopped to feel. At least I have "name of friend" to talk to and process things. Feel so alone. (Childhood friend that also broke up with her boyfriend recently...)
Me - Yeah you have a lot to process. It must be terrible to feel alone like that. You arent really that type of a person.
She didnt say anything so I asked if she had watered the plants, which she hadnt.
I started watering a few of them and then saw she was crying silently.
I looked at her and said it is tough to see you like this but I cant be the one to comfort her.
We can talk but now that we aren't a couple I won't always be there.
Literally as I am typing this W came in to the house from the cabin and went to sleep in D5's room. (D5 fell a sleep in MBR.)