HIgh Levels of Acceptance

[sage]

Minnie -

Don't worry about it; I know EXACTLY what you mean and I'm glad that you posted this message here for me as I needed it. I've been having a hard time asking you lately because I know you don't subscribe to that approach.

I do think there's a middle ground someplace...I suspect it's more closely related to "true detachment" than anything else...

I think that I've slanted most of my post-bomb DB'ing on the "love is letting go of fear" and "mastery of love" tenets...that even the worst behaviors are manifestations of fear and that shedding personalization and ASSumptions and embracing a willingness to accept the other person as they are are the foundations (note: not trying to make it sound as though I'm actually successful at this...just trying to muddle along like everyone else).

I'm not sure it "works" or that it "works" for all sitchs or whatever...Actually, I AM pretty sure that there's no one sure fire technique...that's pretty fundamental DB'ing, no? do what works....without saying exactly what that is.

I guess for me I've found the most peace when I've tried to keep as much acceptance of h in my heart as possible (see note above on the TRYING part).

anyway, in your particular sitch, I just have this sense (MHO ONLY) that your h is looking for a way back IN...wants to believe that things can be different and more positive...

Sage