I had my first major "believe nothing of what they say and only half of what they do" ah-ha moment. He's been attempting the same conversation for two weeks now. I've been trying to figure out what he's saying, and it's so confusing. A lot of the things seem conflicting. He thinks he's codependent and asked me to help him not be codependent. That's not how that works, dude.
Lol!! This made me laugh. Maybe you could direct him to the right places to seek help? Tell him to google “how to not be co-dependent” himself? Lol. But for him to ask for help nonetheless is a good step towards the right direction I think?
Originally Posted by uzer74
It seems here that I have to look at the facts only. What he is saying or maybe not saying doesn't add up to me. There has been no movement towards divorce. He initiates communication daily. He is taking care of his mental health. He is reading self help books--on depression, parenting, communication (obviously he has not mastered this one yet haha). He is taking better care of himself physically. He is doing nice things for me, like compliments, little treats, gestures, etc. He's learning to cook and not just basic stuff. (I'm a chef, so this is big for me.)
Your H does sound very confused still. It sounds like he’s at least making effort to become a better person. So before he makes significant progress on that, he will still be confused and his behavior and words will continue to confuse you. Hang in there!!
