I had my first major "believe nothing of what they say and only half of what they do" ah-ha moment. He's been attempting the same conversation for two weeks now. I've been trying to figure out what he's saying, and it's so confusing. A lot of the things seem conflicting. He thinks he's codependent and asked me to help him not be codependent. That's not how that works, dude. He wants to spend more time together. I offered to go on a hike with him, and he declined saying he was afraid we had different mindsets on what that would mean. He wants more alone time but seeks me out daily and sometimes sulks if I'm unavailable. He encouraged me to pursue independent interests, then listed off a handful of my independent interests. Why would I need more if you can casually list them off the top of your head? Why do you need to tell me how to live my life? And the real important question: Why does any of this matter if we are getting a divorce? He still has not said anything about reconciliation.
It seems here that I have to look at the facts only. What he is saying or maybe not saying doesn't add up to me. There has been no movement towards divorce. He initiates communication daily. He is taking care of his mental health. He is reading self help books--on depression, parenting, communication (obviously he has not mastered this one yet haha). He is taking better care of himself physically. He is doing nice things for me, like compliments, little treats, gestures, etc. He's learning to cook and not just basic stuff. (I'm a chef, so this is big for me.)
