LH19 - Everything you say makes sense and describes what I am feeling to a T!!! I feel like I am in a maelstrom and drowning, and your words are like a raft that I can see but can not pull myself into to save myself - no matter how hard I try. I hate myself for being so weak to willingly allow him to put a lead leash on me and control this situation so easily. Now that I see this conclusion - how do I act on it? what do have to do to get my bearings straight?
M you are not going to want to hear this but the only answer is time. There is nothing you can do right now to change your circumstances. You need to have the attitude that says "husband you go find your happiness, I'm going to go lead an awesome life, if you want to be a part of it then that is something we will need to talk about". It will be difficult at first so you'll need to fake it until you make it. Eventually with time and space you will realize that you can be happy with or without him if you choose. My suggestion would be to get him out of the house as son as possible.
