I do not think the peace you have is possible for people like us, with younger kids and a spouse driven to hurt and control us. There is never any chance for lasting peace. I know you will say differently. But just say it as a friend whose friend is crying on your shoulder and not as a dad, this girl needs a hug from a friend her own age.
(((Gerda)))
I am a friend. Lean into my shoulder. Bury your face into my chest, against my beating heart. Feel my arms wrap around, across your back, and hold you safe.
I am sorry you are hurting.
Today will be only empathy.
Love DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.