You ask a good question of when do I stand up for myself and when do I let it go.
Last week’s telling him that you don’t want other people in the house was the right thing to do.
A kind of guide is am I being treated like a doormat; being stepped on? If so, stand up. It’s ok to stand up against disrespectful behaviour.
Boundaries are for that which you need protection from. Protection for your sanity and emotional wellbeing.
Things that can fit into the “don’t sweat the small stuff” category, let those go for your peace.
Digging for patience and giving yourself 24 hours to consider and reconsider your actions will lead you in the right direction. Although, at times, those luxuries can’t be implemented.
Originally Posted by cardinal
I don't believe that, but knowing he believes feels that...
Nice! Good job on being accurate.
You sound well and grounded. Yep, H is in a hole and you can’t lift him out. Pretty astute of you to realize he doesn’t want that help anyways. You’ve got to let him dig, run, dig, and run some more. Hopefully he gets tired, pauses, and looks around a bit.
Fresh baked bread. mmmmmmmm. Boy I bet your house smells great!
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
