And then it was over.

[BlueSea]

He has fired me as his wife ouch.

Steve & AnotherStander-
I hear you...If I say this "I was too busy. From now on you are going to have to make your own food"... he will not appreciate that and will consider that very confrontational. If what I say does not please him, or irritates him in the least, he makes a point to get in my face and remind me that he is on razor edge of walking out that door. He knows that terrifies me. I don't know what to do to get over that. I am afraid to not make him dinner. Clearly, I have work to do on myself.
The 15 mins, if not needed, I will gladly give up doing! Maybe its pursuit? He is repulsed by me, sadly. If I got the look he gives me from someone on an elevator, I would not get on the elevator! So - this is an easy one, I will stop this immediately. I get very anxious during those talks. Honestly, I feel like a mouse scurrying for crumbs with a cat watching & ready to attack. He is VERY ANGRY right now. It comes out of every pore in his face. scary angry.

I don't know if its due to all the testosterone shots he is taking - or is this is an MLC thing? He very much enjoys hurting me. He will say cruel things and will openly smile when I breakdown and cry. When I see his possessed face, I get afraid, because I know what is coming, if its on, he will not relent. He is only satisfied once I am shaking / weeping and apologizing and telling him I will do better in the future. Is this normal for a WAS/MLC??? He was never like this before, does MLC do this to a man?

The Counselor sessions are with one of Michelle's DB Counselors:
H had his session, said that the counselor wanted the focus to be on communication, building trust and conflict resolution. This would be helpful, regardless of the outcome of us staying together or not. (Ouch - I really did not like that spin). Next, we both have one more session apart to determine common goals, then sessions together. I am ecstatic that he is doing counseling, but confused b/c he doesn't even enjoy talking to me. Can you offer some advice on this - its very confusing for me.

I can not tell you how much I appreciate your wisdom on this - it helps me so much I can not express.
Misty