Why are you overlaying several K per month ? Who’s finding the mountain mansion ?
You can put an end to all of this, you know
Thanks for the chuckle (with overlaying and finding)! A double Freudian slip!
I know I can end it. There's a bunch of legal options at my disposal I won't get into here. We had an informal agreement to sell, now she has a mysterious third party willing to co-sign on a jumbo loan and is proposing to buy me out. (This person is assuredly a rich female friend of hers - if it's an OM, good for me, my support reduces if she has a live-in partner). In any case, I don't think she has the cash to buy me out, and I won't take non-liquid money.
Originally Posted by LB55
U our situations are so similar. False abuse allegations, lack of desire to go to trial, ex living a fantastic life that we fund, etc. I totally get where you are at brother.
LB ~ Yep. I think where we diverge is your W is much more hostile. My W is trying to get her way in a more subtle way. I have regular time with my kids, it just isn't as much as I want. She will be nice to me when getting her way, and as soon as I stand up for myself she gets defensive. The thing is, of course I'd like us to have a nice co-parenting relationship, but I won't cater to her needs just because I'm worried she will react negatively.
I can't recall if I posted this... in our last mediation session, the mediator (a retired judge) heard my W refer to CPS. I clarified that there were never CPS reports, and said I was concerned she was saying CPS. He looked up and said "that CPS stuff --- that is bullsh*t". This is the mediator saying that! My L said people who work in the system can't stand the false claims -- they jam up the system and eat up valuable resources.
In any case, somehow in these situations, while the father is supposed to remain calm and rational, the mother can make abuse claims, entrench themselves with the kids and the house, and everyone looks to us to the father to avoid court. What am I supposed to do?
I did make one DB mistake recently I'd like to share. My W was escalating e-mails, and eventually e-mailed me that she was annoyed I had hired a lawyer, that I was making this super expensive, and said I was the first to get a lawyer, in February 2019. I said, "No, it was February 2020. You were the first to meet a lawyer, and you steered us to MC2 because he was a divorce specialist. We both know this is true, you can deny it all you want."
She reacted as I would expect. "Stop taking shots at me." I know it was pointless to say what I did, but I wanted her to know I know the truth. Her reaction was to get defensive and ignore the content of what I said (because it is true). But... I got sucked into an argument over truth, which was a DB mistake.
