[quote=rts4n]Using p**n when you could've been in the arms of your partner is certainly a vice, but self-satisfaction is good for you (when a partner is not available e.g. WAS) and better for health and reconciliation than "a ton of partners or one-nighters". Consider erotic literature as an alternative.
Good point CWarrior. The lit is something I have looked into but not in a lot of depth. I am not trying to go cold turkey right now, but definitely trying to decrease frequency of use while also avoiding the shame - the shame is a big part of why it took me so long to come clean. And retrain my mind/body to not depend on it for satisfaction all the time. I know this won't be enough, but it's a start for now. This is a planned 180, so I still have a lot of work to do here.
