My problem was turning to p**n and - it's hard to say but being addicted - and ignoring our SSM even when she wanted to talk about it. Even though I am HL, and probably because of my LT use of p**n, I also have not had a ton of partners or one-nighters and that has made it challenging for me to break out of the p**n cycle.
Hi Rts4n,
Using p**n when you could've been in the arms of your partner is certainly a vice, but self-satisfaction is good for you (when a partner is not available e.g. WAS) and better for health and reconciliation than "a ton of partners or one-nighters". Consider erotic literature as an alternative. What are you doing to break your compulsion--CBT therapy? A support group? Monitoring apps? I don't have personal experience with porn addiction/compulsion--some members here do. The sites I've Googled consistently say the least effective way to quit is to beat yourself up (guilt/shame) while trying to go cold turkey, which makes sense. If this is one of your 180s, I hope you're going full steam ahead to find a workable solution to break this vice.
