I've also realized that when we were first together, I was much more confident and detached. In the recent years, I've turned back into my needy, pursuer default. I've been hyper aware of this this week and have made sure to be really conscious about how I'm acting around her. Maintaining this for the long term will be the real challenge though. This, regaining her trust, and each of use learning how to meet the other's emotional needs are the biggest challenges if I can get through the LRT phase.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
I know the sex issue hits home for me. I find sex a bit dull and I know that it is in my head. I didn't have a ton of partners or one nighters but I've never gone more than a couple of years without a new, "fresh" partner in my mind. This isn't a big concern for you right now though.
This also really resonated for me, although I am the HL one in our relationship. My problem was turning to p**n and - it's hard to say but being addicted - and ignoring our SSM even when she wanted to talk about it. Even though I am HL, and probably because of my LT use of p**n, I also have not had a ton of partners or one-nighters and that has made it challenging for me to break out of the p**n cycle.
