My W used to tell me I was being controlling at certain times. I always disagreed. I've never been able to recognise or detect this behaviour in myself, and I still don't see it. I've always given my view on things, and expressed a preference, but I've never said "You can't do x" or "You must do y".
Given this is the time to work on myself, perhaps this is one of the things I need to work on, but I don't know how to address it or even identify if it is something that needs addressing.
I did a quick google and found several lists - 'Signs you are controlling', that sort of thing. I know you shouldn't use the internet as a 'doctor' but I thought it might provide some indications. Going through the lists I couldn't see anything that really chimed. I never dictated what my wife could/should wear, I've never insisted I made all the key decisions, I haven't been a 'my way is the only way' person, etc.
Any suggestions? I guess this is the sort of thing I'd go to an IC for, but it seems a bit odd to start with 'Do I have this behaviour?' rather than 'I have this behaviour, help me address it.'
