The short answer is I do not know exactly why she wants a D, and I may never truly know. But in talking to my IC about my sitch, we both believe she has suppressed whatever issues she has due to her adoption, seeking out her birth family, etc. At this point in her life, she can not suppress it any longer. The timing of her behavioral changes is in sync with her being rejected by her birth mother and newly-found half-siblings. I know this may not be the "reason" she wants a D, and I certainly know and can admit that I am not without fault here.
