And then it was over.

[BlueSea]

Thank you all, Steve85, job, AnotherStander...really appreciate your advice and I followed the ring advice, and didn't ask a thing about his his leaving all night. He was surprisingly very nice the next morning - even so far as coming over and giving me a hug. Generally, he was in a good mood all day... the evenings are always bad.

And, I hear you all..detach, detach, detach...even though everything about me says engage. I will read.

Update:
He had his appt with the DB counselor this morning - he seems very upset - took off this afternoon on an 'errand'. This is the first time he is going somewhere without saying where he is going (even if its untrue). I am just hoping and praying he will try the next step of both of us talking to the DB counselor together

I had my appt with my DB counselor, he wants me to get ready for when he walks out/leaves I just can not get my head around that - I am having anxiety attacks about this, I feel like I am free falling from a cliff and my life as it was is just getting smaller and further away to ever coming back to.

Advice on this - please:
Generally, I just leave him alone: to his work during the day, while he works out for 2 hours I make his special vegetarian dinners (outside of the kids food), and then he plays video games at night. I do come in for a 15 min talk in the evening - just to connect - about the day, nothing marriage related. I can tell after 15 mins he is done with me, so I go. He then drinks, and gets on the computer.

thank you!!
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Me: 50
Husband: 49
D: 16
S: 13
Married for 23 years
D Day: Feb 25th 2020
Emotional & Physical affair Dec 2019 - Feb 2020?? and still continuing?