Since BD, I have been working on myself. I've lost 50 lbs, been working out, going to IC and really working connecting on a deeper level with my kids.
Wow! Congrats!
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W wasn't into putting in any effort to work on M. I come from a large, nuclear family and we both have really focused on our family for most of our time together. I think this has unfortunately "invalidated" her background and experience and has led her to want a D in part as a way to "validate" her past, something she has been unable to do on her own.
I don't understand. Is this all your way of trying to make sense of her wanting a D?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
