Is it too far gone?

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Hi RTS,

I read your whole post the other day. It reminded a lot of my situation. I had built up a lot of negativity over the years and then my wife had enough and finally bomb dropped me one day.

My biggest rules for you are:

1. No more ILY's
2. No more pressure
3. No peacocking

Read Sandi's 37 rules every day. Work on being a better you every day. Go GAL. Do it. Whatever that me be for you. I know the sex issue hits home for me. I find sex a bit dull and I know that it is in my head. I didn't have a ton of partners or one nighters but I've never gone more than a couple of years without a new, "fresh" partner in my mind. This isn't a big concern for you right now though.

I believe you are in LRT territory. Last Resort Technique means:

1. Stop Pursuing
2. GAL
3. Wait and See

Learn how to validate. Learn how to be still and calm instead of filling in the silence. Learn active listening. Learn how to bite your tongue. And be very, very patient. I don't care how stubborn she is I can tell she is not totally gone so you do this right and you do it right now. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.