Doing my thing & keeping a smile

[may22]

H called me today and said let's do dinner tomorrow. I said sure, you can take them to this and that restaurant. He said let's all go together. I hesitated. I don't really want to be part of it. He can has his time with the kids, I don't need to be there. But I agreed anyway. I feel like this is the part where I need to learn to draw the line - H has the idea that we will still be friends and hang out with the kids together after D, but that won't happen. maybe 5 or 10 years later we can be "friends," but I don't want to be his friend right now.

Wooba, if you need it, I just want to give you permission to change your mind on this one. Just because you agreed to the dinner in the moment doesn't mean you are bound to carry through on it. You totally have the right to text him and say you know what, I'm not up for it, why don't you pick up the kids and take them on your own. (And as an aside... if I were you, the opportunity for a little alone time would be soooooo welcome! You need and deserve that! Maybe you even frame it that way to him if you don't want to tell him you care one way or the other about being in the same room as him... just say hey I could use some time without the kids to get some stuff done around the house.)

Let us know how it goes. Wasn't your H suicidal previously? Have you heard anything along those lines recently? (Sorry if I'm remembering incorrectly)