If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't confront him about last evening. The more you try to reason w/him, the more he's going to do what he wants. He's like a teenager and when "mom" confronts him, he'll most likely lie or project on to you how he's feeling. You cannot rationalize w/him.
I also wouldn't say a word about the ring. Just put it on the counter where he can find it. He's hoping that you'll say something to him about last night and the ring so that he can pick an argument w/you. Why? He needs justification for what he's doing or what he's thinking about doing.
I hope you didn't give him this site address. This site is for you and it's a safe place for people to post. I would suggest that you continue counseling and not say another word about him going. Unless he's willing to go, which most likely won't happen unless he drops the ow (if there is one), then counseling isn't going to do anything for him. The only thing he will do is have selective hearing and hear what he wants to hear and may not continue w/the counseling.
Please, please do not share this DB site w/him!
I know that this is a tough situation for you, but you've got to detach a bit more and go about your daily routine. The more you tried to talk to him about the relationship, the more he's going to run the other way. Come here to vent and talk.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
