Made it a year - part 2

[Dawn70]

I get that you are stuck on him getting his happily ever after. I just can’t figure out why that is your focus. It seems so terribly counterproductive to your healing. Getting a new SO or focusing on what is going on with your H is not going to help you move forward. I hope I am not sounding harsh because I do truly feel bad for the hurt you feel. I just don’t think focusing on comparing your situation and all that you feel it lacks to his situation and how much better you PRESUME it is is going to get you anywhere but driving yourself crazy. You can only control you. Another old saying I have seen many times that served me quite well through my own D is the one about holding a grudge allows someone to live in your head rent-free. Honey, kick that b@st@rd out of your head and focus on being the best version of yourself you’ve ever been. You got this!!!!!!!