So here is what is happening with the difference in attitudes with you and your son. He doesn’t feel safe being nice to you right now. Why? Because if he’s nice to you then you are going to pursue him and then he’s going to have to hurt you again.
Pure gold here. This is a natural consequence of the: "Oh he is nice to me so we have a chance! Oh no, he is being mean to me, it is over!" mentality.
You've trained him to be mean, essentially. This is why you need to focus on detachment. Because then you are even keeled no matter what he says or does. He's mean, you are even. He's nice, you are even. He takes his boat, you are even. He leaves his motorcycle there, you are even. Your excitement at any positive, and your disappointment at any negative is training him to treat you poorly because he doesn't want you to get your hopes again.
This is why I keep recommending IC. You are stuck in an action-reaction rut, and have been for many many weeks.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
