Made it a year - part 2

[Dawn70]

Just because someone doesn’t appear drunk, doesn’t mean they’re not an alcoholic. There are many high functioning alcoholics who never appear the least bit intoxicated. But, I’m sure you already knew all that. I agree with everything kml and Ginger posted earlier. Focus on something, ANYTHING, other than your STBXH. And don’t engage your kids in discussions about him. I know that can be difficult, particularly when kids are older and more aware of things, but like Ginger said, it doesn’t help you or them. I really feel for you but you sometimes seem to not only get down about it (understandably so) but just seem to wallow in how horrible your life is and how much better his is (presumably). You mentioned in a post recently that you have $300 after paying bills. That’s a LOT more than some. Plus you have a house, a job, food, a good relationship with your kids. You have a lot of blessings, which I know is hard to see from the inside. I read something when I was going through my own D that said that it is ok to get down and even wallow a little but if it helps you pick yourself up and move forward but be careful not to unpack and live there. I thought that was outstanding advice.