Not your fault. And a guy drinking 8 oz of vodka straight is much more likely to be an alcoholic than not.
Were there alcoholics in your family? Sometimes people who are used to being around alcoholics don't see the red flags.
My father was a redneck beer drinker. I’ve been fetching him beers since I was 5 and for an extra treat I got the first swig. He was never visibly drunk either. My parents got addicted to gambling when I was in my late 20s and that’s when my mom started drinking. Not at home just at the casinos.
People who know my family think I’m adopted but that’s just because I’m educated.
