Quote: There was a time pre-bomb when h and I seemed very happy -- at least I thought we were. then, I dunno, it gets bl
Same thing here. We were SO happy...then we bought the house, my dad passed, things with my family of origin became more dramatic, we had dd, etc.....we were angry, tired, disillusioned, etc...who knows!
Quote: guess what I most wonder is this...if h had felt happy in our m. would ow's presence have mattered? And if h felt unhappy, what was he unhappy about? and did ow's presence (as a friend) make him feel less happy with me (comparisons, etc)?
Exactly! Were things so bad with me that he had to do this? Was there something beside me not cooking, physical intimacy not what he wanted, and the rest of the list he recites to me each time he tells me he wants a D?
Quote: a guy who works for me just asked to speak to me for "5 minutes" -- 90 minutes later I loaned him my copy of "Divorce Remedy"....
Yes...he came to me to warn me that his head isn't in the game right now because he and his wife are having serious m. problems...they are talking about separating. they have a six year old son.
It's so hard to see (on this board and off) how rampant this is? How there is yet someone else who is about to go down that awful path so many of us have traveled. He is very lucky that he decided to approach you.
Quote: I'm glad he came to me...I remember feeling very lost and upset at work and wishing that I could tell my boss that I may need some slack for a bit.
I tried for a while to do it on my own, to pretend, to keep up, etc. until I eventually went to my boss with it. He was SO surprised and incredibly supportive...still is. It's been the smartest thing I've done.
Thanks for sharing. Hope you have a great weekend.
