When we got married, his parents got a divorce. I guess it had been long in coming (married out of duty, she was still in HS-different times) Anyway, he became very imbedded in my family. We were intact and welcomed him. He has always been generous with time and even gives everyone a gift just from him at the holidays (this past year, no different) everyone seems to look up to him, coworkers and friends alike. I think that is part of the problem within him. How can he be so good and have this huge deception? I too, feel it would be hard for him to come back if everyone knows. One reason is just what I said, everyone thinks so highly of him, if they all knew it would be too much even though he set the wheels in motion with his behavior. When I see little glimpses of my old H, I am encouraged that he is still in there somewhere. My counselor has classified him a clear cut MLC, his issue is he needs to be happy within and right now he’s struggling with that. I know I didn’t help, but the way this was explained to me is that regardless of who he married, he would be in crisis eventually. This is within him only. So all I can do is wait,but not wait. It is a delicate dance!
