I'll save the usual waffle. I did take the kids to visit H, put on my cool calm pants and validated his moaning about his work stuff. It was nice having the kids in the car, they are so funny and good company when we're travelling together. Then this morning I check my phone and there's an app he's downloaded which is to do with property conveyancing (we share an icloud account, though he's managed to get most of his stuff invisible to me some of it leaks over somehow, so I think he has no idea I can see). What else is he hiding? Apart from a probable mistress, let's face it. So he told me all about his work stuff but not that he's BUYING A HOUSE? Ugh. He was talking about this job stuff being the end of his career and I was thinking 'how can he afford to retire if he insists on D and he loses half of everything?' But if he's getting double what he's telling me he wants as a payout, probably fairly easily. Or if he's somehow hidden stacks of money in the last 18 months.
I was initially very shocked and wobbly, then went for a run and calmed down. Then I ordered a new phone via a supermarket so he can't see what I bought, messaged a divorce lawyer I kind of know from elsewhere, and set up a new email account on my phone. Next stop I'll set up my own bank account. Can't let H know any of this because he's still negotiating his potential work payout. I definitely need legal protection though, this man is crazy and who knows how much money he's hiding from me whilst using me as his emotional support. Yuck. Does he really think he can use me as an emotional crutch when we're Ded? No way matey, I will be long gone, off travelling with my sexy new man who treats me like the goddess I am. What a fool my H is. Anyway, I dread the thought of all the legal stuff, but this kind of deception seals the deal for me that I cannot trust H. I feel like we're entering stage 2 here.
