Thank you DD. I am feeling very cautious. Of course this is everything I want but we need to talk about a lot of things. We spent time together on Saturday and Sunday and it was nice and fun. I know that losing my companionship has always been a big thing for him and this whole last year has been ILYB. He didn’t see us being an intimate couple ever again, he said it was awkward and like brother /sister. Yesterday we proved that not to be the case. He may be manipulating me, who knows. But I don’t regret it because I wanted it to happen spontaneously before it became one of the big talking points and then subsequently felt contrived and not spontaneous.

I have left it with him that we have a lot to talk over before making big decisions but haven’t pushed those talks or set a date/time. I’m not sure whether to wait for him to initiate more talks or to suggest an evening myself?


M:49 H:49
T:20 M:18
D:16 D:14

EA: Feb 2019-May 2020
Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020
H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020
EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020
Recon #2: since Nov 2020