Why is your focus on what he’s doing on his phone, with who and why??? And why are your kids involved in all that?
Take a breath and think about it. You are obsessing over his phone habits. When you start this, you need to throw up that big STOP sign and do something to refocus yourself.
It’s not healthy for you or your kids . All of you have better things in your lives rather than concern yourself with his phone and his OW blowing it up.
Fine yourself an activity every time your mind goes that way. Stop yourself and do an exercise. Or knit. Or cook something. Because this is getting you nowhere than spiraling down. And this is not good for your kids to join in the obsessions or convo.
