Hi PLC, you are patient indeed, and kind. Your H does not deserve you, but then none of the spouses on here deserve any of us! Failed engagement, yuck. LH is so correct when it says it takes years for these things to play out. Patience is a hard thing to learn but wow, aren't we better people after all this? My family are also unaware of our separation, and only a tiny circle of my friends know, and sometimes I find this the toughest part of all, like it's impossible to be honest with people you like or love. You are so right though that if you need to ask then he's not ready. Stay strong there, keep detaching
