He came to get more stuff... this was the longest move out session - over 2 1/2hr and it was warm. We were both sweaty.
No eye contact at all. No smiles. I am doing my share of the heavy lifting.
My S18 comes in and out while he is doing his own thing. H interacts with him and its friendly, and fun and sweet. I just stay back.
We are putting the drive gate back together - I've got it rednecked because H has never done the work around he talks about evertime he is here. I just stated... yeah of given up on you doing anything about this. Without looking at me he gets a stern tone and says you won't let me over here - at most its once a week. I'm not working. I've got nothing but time.
Foolishly I stated he has a garage opener and he can come over to do those things.... UGH [foot in mouth]
Toward the end he was getting some stuff out of the sunroom. I took a break on a couch in another room and popped up my phone and was facebooking. Weird because now he suddenly wanted to have eye contact. Not only is he talking to me he is looking at me. Earlier I had made a funny joke when he was asking for a hoe... I said your a what??? It was funny but not even a smile.
We walked out to the garage and he states he brought back the shovel I had put in the truck stating he already had 2 at the house... uh ok... this is after he told me he already had a snowshovel. He then voluntarily stated that the previous owners of the house he bought left lots of stuff behind including a 12k car lift in the garage. He gets his phone out and starts to show me pictures... he hasn't been this engaged with me in forever. But, I'm not dumb... this is minuscule and nothing.
We are conversing and its clear he is only leaving with the recliner so I asked what he had in the way of furniture. He stated "oh at the house", "I have a table and 3 chairs". I stated that your mom got you? He replied yes. He stated he was going to auction and estate sales. Mentioned getting a washer and dryer for $5. He then proceeded to tell me the story of how he got those into his house.
So if he is moving OW in he is being very stealth about it.
With that he was off and out the door. 5 minutes later I called - he kind of answered rudely YES, What Do You Want?. I just said he had left the boat keys here... oh crap...
I told him rather than to have to get the truck that was loaded down with stuff and hauling the boat I would meet him at X with the keys - he was just 5min down the road.
Didn't even get out of the car... just handed them through the window. I made a comment like he would have been so pi*ssed getting all the way home and not having the boat keys. He thought he had a duplicate set on his key chain but looked and did not. He sort of thanked me??? I just said good bye and took off.
I'm home.. pretty much ambivalent to the whole thing.
My H has lost weight but he looks old. Don't get me wrong. I still find him attractive. Its just for me the most attractive feature on a man is his smile. Gosh Golly I loved his smile!!! But, he doesn't smile for me. Not once. Maybe its for the best because I would have found him hard to resist.
He is not attracted to me.
I'm ambivalent. At least for today.
He has a little more to move out.
Last edited by job; 05/03/2007:33 PM. Reason: edited language
[foot in mouth]