Yes, H will judge the actions you do for his birthdays he will. His feelings and judging will not remain static. It’s best to do what is in your best interests. Kind and cordial.
Give him a birthday card. A more generic type; not all gushy and affectionate. And wish him a happy birthday. If he responds well to that, tell him you are making ribs for dinner.
Ok, that’s my favourite, well meat really. Steak - yummy. Ribs - yummy. Hotdogs - yummy. Wait, does that last one even count as meat?
Sorry, got side tracked. Point is, you could have something in reserve, like ribs or such, that could be placed into service rather quickly. If he response in a manner worthy of that. It kind of goes along with the reward good behaviour, and do more of what works, ideals.
Expecting nothing doesn’t preclude expecting anything. He just may surprise you - I mean in a nice way. Throwing something “special” together for supper might be appropriate. Make that decision last minute, to stay no pressure.
Of course he’ll be eating hotdogs if he is in one of his moods.
Have a great day.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
