So don't hold your breath on him actually doing anything, it seems all too common that whilst they are busy telling you that you are a horrible person they don't want to be married to that they don't actually move forward on getting a D. Funny that. When people on here say that it's usually the LBS who moves forward with D, I can see that it's true. Oh, and H left behind about 2 wardrobes full of clothes. Buying a whole new wardrobe is not uncommon, but god forbid you should chuck any of their old stuff out
I don’t understand why H would want to keep bringing up the financial issue if he does not plan on going forward with D. Or maybe he thinks he does but is just moving verrrrry slowly? At this point I really do not mind just settle everything and be done with it. Yes, I also can see now that some LBSes choose to move forward. I totally get it. I’m close to that but not fully there yet.
The situation is frustrating to me. I understand he in incapable of being a father right now. I understand he needs to go through his own journey. I understand for right now I can live my life and just let things be, because that’s all I can do anyway. I am just really exhausted. My kids are generally good but they can be challenging sometimes. At the end of the day I just wish I had a shoulder to lean on. I don’t want to cry to my parents or my friends. So I have no choice but to be strong on my own.
I want to crawl up in a hole sometimes too. But I have responsibilities. So here I am, indulging myself with some self-pity for the time being, and tomorrow I will be fine.
