She had a message she'd worked on and wanted to send to OM and told me that it was going to be hard because she had built it up in her head and still has feelings for OM but wanted to move forward with her life, come out of limbo and doesn't believe OM will make her happy long term and she wants to be with me. She said she was most scared of losing me.
I am gonna say this tongue and cheek "you sound like a luck guy"
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She had the message ready to send but didn't feel strong enough to physically press the send button and asked me to press it.
Seriously
Originally Posted by OS2
OM immediately phoned her swearing and telling her he'd beat me up (unbelievable, and what a nice man). I think the phone call actually gave W some closure as he wasn't pleasant and was trying to manipulate her.
So he's a bad guy for trying to manipulate her but it's ok she's manipulating you?
Look man I am not saying that at some point you can't reconcile but it is clear this is happening for two reasons. 1. Her OM turned out to be a dueshe bag and 2. she doesn't want to stay at her parents anymore. At best right not you have a stay of execution until an OM comes around.
If you engage in a relationship with her again it should only be under the conditions that:
1) She sees you as someone of extremely high value 2) She views a relationship with you as something much better than a life with someone else or a life alone 3) She's willing to work to win you
Without those three things, she's going to cheat again down the line, because she really doesn't have the motivation to work with you to change anything, your relationship will keep seeking the same equilibrium it has had because of how your personalities and issues come together.
I am sure Sandi will come along and give you more detailed advice.
