HIgh Levels of Acceptance

[sage]

How did you abandon these thoughts?

I don't know...I remember reading something...I think it was in "Mastery of Love" and he basically said -- if you're sitting around expecting your spouse to be somebody different than they are then you're disrespecting them. They weren't put here to be something for YOU they were put here to be THEM and if you can't stop judging and start loving unconditionally, well, then maybe you shouldn't be together.

I think it was also that after the bomb dropped I took a good look at ME and realized how much pressure and anger and impatience and intolerance I was bringing into the m. -- all under the guise of "getting things done" or "doing things the RIGHT way". I was doing a lot of meditating on compassion at the time and I just realized how much it must have hurt my h to be perceived as so darned WRONG all the time. What IS so wrong about what he does on a daily basis? VERY little, actually.

Here's an interview with the guy who wrote the book -- he touches a bit on what I've said above:

Interview with Miguel Ruiz

Believe me...I'm not perfect at this at all...there are still times when I wish for different things but I try to be really noticing of the level of judgement I attach to those wishes -- keep that at a minimum! and that noticing really helps me keep a tight rein on when I lapse back into the "I"m so right" mindset

Sage