Every piecing thread I've read on here says that piecing is the hardest bit of this whole thing. Please be careful. Don't let him back too easy or he will walk again (he might anyway, he's been ambivalent a long time...) IC for him, MC for both of you is a minimum, I would not trust him being gone a few short weeks during a global pandemic as being typical of his long term feelings. I might be too pessimistic, or projecting my H's deep problems onto your H, but I really wish in a way that I had walked away from my M a few years ago when I got the first mini BD. Life would have been easier overall than going through all that heartbreak properly in the long term. It is so easy to take someone back, but put yourself 2 years in the future if he has done no work on himself or the M.
