The talk about $ happened. H said he will put it in writing. (Who knows how long that’s going to take)
I brought up custody and I told him that I do not mind 50/50, and I do not want to take his time with children away. But to give him an out, I said “I understand with work, it would be difficult for you....to protect your fair share of time with kids, we should have a visitation schedule on paper, maybe you can have the kids every other weekend at YOUR place, or you can take them out for dinner few nights a week.” And interestingly, when I mentioned his place, he seems a bit stunned and there was no response...so I said, just something for you to think about. He said he’d prefer what we have right now, he comes here on the weekends to cook a meal/hang out with the kids. (When our D is finalized I think I want to draw a clear line that if he wants to spend time with the kids, he can spend it at his place. Not over here. But as for right now the kids see him so little, So I don’t want to push this issue)
Again, it’s been over 6 months that he moved out, and I still have no clue where he is living and he’s NEVER expressed wanting to have the kids over at his place.
I said to him as this proceeds, he should take most of his clothes and do his own laundry/dry cleaning. His response was, “so you want me to move out.” I said, “you already did.” H laughs and said, “I literally have three shirts with me.” I said, “well, I’m sure you have room in your place to put some more clothes.”
Is this typical MLC behavior? you run away to your new life but does not even make room for your kids??
Ugh!! I understand nothing is logical with a MLCer. I guess more waiting is to be expected. Until I actually see things in writing.
