Odds are either 1) she ashamed of him or 2) he’s jealous of you.
I never had any experience with jealous boyfriends before CMM. But he’s super jealous. Like, my high school boyfriend who is now a Catholic priest and gave me a hug at my moms funeral was a problem! So maybe her boyfriend is super jealous of you.
If I had to guess probably ashamed. She seemed to do a lot of justifying him to me the times it would come up. Funny thing is that it hardly ever came up and she certainly doesn't need my approval but I guess if all things measure up to me (as her reference point) I guess you can't help the comparisons.
I would also hope that if you are going to D me you would at least need to upgrade in some area, I mean I am not sure that is possible but......bahaaaaaa!
My XW loves her alone time, is selfish and really enjoys being a part time parent. I would not be shocked if she never married again. When she was telling me about it she didn't seemed phased by it one bit. Just so very indifferent, it actually gave me flash backs about how indifferent she was towards me at the time. There was a brief moment where I felt sorry for the guy knowing how she is.
Hey L......yeah, it's pretty predictable. Odd that they have been dating for over 2 years and she has never brought him around me, flaunted him in my face, took to social media, etc.
I am not entirely sure what his sticking points are. Yes, he is short. Seems like he has little man's syndrome from how people have described him. Used to be a cop now he is a nurse. His kids are older, 1 in college and another a senior in high school. He lives in another town in a different school district so he would have to move to our town as my xw can't leave so maybe that is a sticking point. Who knows.
I don't get the impression they are spending a lot of time together. When he was studying to be a nurse I think he spent a lot of time at the xw's place. Now that he is working, combined with living 20 miles away I don't think their time together is the same.
Here is another perspective, he may just have zero interest in meeting you or your XW's previous life, or being apart the new extended family.
My xw wife wants me to meet OM. I can barely tolerate her presence anymore, let alone meet the dud she kicked me to the curb for. On the other side of the coin the XH of my gf wants to meet me if I am going to be around his kids. If I believe any of her stories about why they split then I am not interested. They have their Dad, I am not him, I am just their mom's BF.
You are a good dude who seems to want to bring everyone together for the benefit of your kids, which is great. That doesn't mean everyone wants to join the party.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Certainly a plausible idea as well. I had no desire to meet him early on, when the X brought it up at that time I told her I trusted her judgement. My only real desire to do so is for the betterment of my daughters so they feel comfortable. It came to head several months back when my daughters made some comments about him. At that time I thought it would be good to meet him so I could gain some insight with the thought of actually supporting him and my xw when my daughters are with them.
Since the Doc has her son full time it is not as big of an issue since her son is only with his father a few days out of the month. Having 50/50 certainly puts a little more responsibility on the BF or GF especially if they are spending a lot of time around the kids.
Big day today, my oldest turns 11!!! Man how time flies. Just a small gathering here in about an hour with the Doc (Doc made the cake) her son and my XW. Not sure if her BF is coming or not. She has met the XW before so I am not as nervous this time but it still is a little awkward to be around her with the Doc. Still a little awkward for me around my girls as well, my youngest more than my oldest. I do think it would good if the X's BF came especially for my girls as maybe it would help them feel more comfortable that there are no hard feelings between us and both of us are happy and have moved on.
In other news my car arrived on Wednesday so that's fun! Definitely fun to drive but I will miss having an SUV especially when making Home Depot runs. I have also been tackling a leaky sprinkler system in my backyard. I have been digging all week and found 3 leaks, one of which was major, so I am super proud of myself! Easily saved probably 300 to 400 bucks and as the saying goes "A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned"!!!
The party was a success......not nearly as awkward this time but still a little. Xws bf didn't make it, I guess he is working 3rd shift at the hospital and needed to sleep.
