((hugs)) To take your power back, you need to address your fear of losing him. And guess what, you've already lost him! so there is no point to beg or cry or nice him back. Again, focus on yourself. What are some behaviors that you think you can work on for yourself? start with something small. Remember that your H chose to have the affair. He should be the one crying and begging to stay in your life. What "friend" would do that to you? If I were you, I want even less to do with him than being in the friend zone. Put yourself first, you deserve respect.
It is pretty silly of me to worry about pulling away from someone that I have already lost. Thanks for pointing that out to me Wooba.
I am going on day 2 of NC. As I am typing this, he sent me a salty text message telling me again that he is not going to finish all of the repairs on the house and that he's calling a realtor. This is the same info he told me two days ago and I never responded. I think he's trying to start an argument. Or maybe it pi$$e$ him off that I'm not attempting to smooth things over with him???
I was always the one to apologize first or jump through hoops to keep him from being upset or angry. Those days are over. It's hard because I hate it when he's mad at me. I can't believe after everything he's done I'm still worried that he's upset with me.
I can do this. Stay strong, do not reply!!
Me: 47 H: 45 T: 24 M:23 D23 BD #1 12/19: ILYBNILWY BD #2 2/20: I discovered H was having an affair with OW. (OW is 21 and lives in another country) Current R status: Separated.
