WW post D (Thanks BenB part 3)

[Mumin]

Thank you Ovr, LH and Sandi.
All GOOD Advice!

I will definitely avoid these types of talks unless she expressively says she wants or is ready to.
I have strong doubts she is anywhere near a Rec or is having regrets. Probably some second thoughts though.
I have been feeling a lot more detached lately but it is true I must continue to ACTIVELY work on it, thanks for reminder Ovr!
Also thanks for the tips on not sharing details on what I have done while away.

Oh Sandi! You are a saint for writing all this. I can tell you how much this post means to me!
Both great timing and really clearing some things up for me how to act and how she may be feeling!
THAAANK YOU!

Especially this "Don't be so eager to show you are available. Just sit there calmly & silently, giving her plenty of rope to lead the conversation."
I am way better at allowing silence but in a way silence feels weak. At least in the midst of things.

I have read A LOT of your advice to others so hence already have my list of terms if (that's a HUGE if) she ever comes around. She will have to go NC with OM which means quit her job. For one!
She would have to really get to work on her self. For a long time.

When it comes to staying mysterious and not answering questions. What do you think are some good alternative answers??
Apart from lying. Usually I am bad at lying if I haven't prepared.

Update:
This week got a bit strange. At least practically.

On Wednesday W was supposed to pick up the kids have them for two days (at home).
In the morning W wrote and said she was feeling slow, had coughed and probably had fever.
Eventually I suggested that she should come home because I had made plans for the weekend to celebrate D2's birthday. She agreed it was the best.
So I have been alone with the kids all week and haven't seen W since Monday morning.
Also, I said if she has been feeling well for a few days she is still welcome on Sunday to celebrate.
We had a bit more contact than usual to settle all this and I also asked her the day after how she was feeling.