Quote: Finally, in my own experience, if h interprets my request as something he may FAIL at (like, not live up to my expectations) then he's very resistent to doing it -- even if to me it seems as though it's something he'll succeed at.
you wrote that in slowly's thread
what is sorta funny is that i read your response and do like i usually do and click my mouse up to where i go to the menu to start reading something else, but then that sentence jumped out at me like a heavy 2 x 4 cross my head
i scrolled back down and re-read it
how incredibly insightful is that? i have still had a problem with asking hubby to do things because quite frankly he always gives me excuses on why things can't be done
WOW
could it possibly be that he feels like such a failure in so many areas of his life that it actually permeates into the things he really is good at but refuses to see it?
is that why he always gives me a pat answer on it? but then usually gets the job done anyway? ugh
WHY IN THE WORLD DO WE ALL HAVE TO BE PSYCHIATRISTS JUST TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP
ok, ok, i am done...but i wanted to thank you none the less, this was an eye opener for me
i read mars/venus years ago, looks like i need to get another copy and read it again
