Maybe if I had done more, he would have reach out to HER more.
Nope. This is on him. He wasn’t sufficiently interested in being a parent to reach out more to her. Let him show you what kind of parent he’s going to be now. It’s not your job to manage his relationship with her. If he’s going to be a rotten parent you can’t fix that. And frankly, if he’s going to be a rotten parent, maybe it’s better your daughter doesn’t get more attached.
Spot on.
My first husband left me and my D3, 30 odd years ago. He chose to move over 3 hours away with his OW. SHE encouraged him to maintain contact with D.
I did nothing. Remember, in those days we only had a house phone, no emails or social media. The only thing I made sure to do was to never run him down in her presence.
She grew up to make her own mind up that he was a waste of space. He tries now........but she has always thought of my second H as her dad, as he brought her up from the age of four.
Your H has chosen this path, it’s for him to do the leg work with D. You are already doing your job of parenting, you can’t do his too.
