The plan was that once my son graduated high school we would move.
Things started happening at the home... 5k tree work, 12k new fence.. then needed to regrate/seed yard... My H suddenly got the impression that I would never leave the house.
Even when we talked about fences - I discussed putting up cheaper wrought iron since we were selling at some point but we both agreed that we liked privacy fences more.
But some comment I made about landscaping and he was like... that's it... I knew you would never leave.
***I told my H that if he said we are leaving or this M is ending I would have packed in 5min. He did his commute for a decade and it was now my turn to sacrifice for him. And, I said it that way. I do owe you. It's like Gladys Knight and the Pips --- I rather live with him in his world than without him in mine.***
That coupled with my self esteem and recent pulling away emotionally and physically... he folded like a house of cards.
