I’m tattling on myself a little bit. I did write back and instead of it being short NC mode I mentioned my thoughts about the finances and what I thought the options were for handling the house, etc. I broke NC rule and said that I understood why he walked away and that I learned a lesson a little too late about things that I need to work on. I did make sure that I didn’t pursue or plead or pressure but these changes I’m making with work through Therapist are genuine. I am taking fault for my actions without defending. That is a 180 for me for sure.
I spent a lot of time writing it out to make sure I wasn’t doing any pursuing. Told him I didn’t want him to feel like he couldn’t come see kiddos. Didn’t want him to feel guilty. Said I didn’t want to make things difficult for anyone, my goal was the least painful process.
H texted right back about which bill should be split, who should take responsibility for this, that, etc. He must have just blown past the thoughtful parts. Why in the world would I expect my H to be any different than the rest of the WAS on here? I should know better.
He didn’t mention D but said he is pushing for group session with Therapist next week to go over time table. He is driving the bus and I’m just strapped in for the ride.
