I went back and read your story from a couple years ago and you got a second chance and still didn’t put the effort in to repairing the M. I think that should tell you something.
An interesting point. What changes did you make for BD1 and which did you keep? Do you observe any patterns? For me, the trend is changes I made for me kept and changes I made for her fell away.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I was a goddess to him... and over the years he got to see my cracks and flaws..
Most relationships begin with infatuation. He eventually saw your flaws and same for OW.
Originally Posted by KitCat
The hurt that he internalized as his rejection of me when I was going through my own issues... well his draw to me weakened significantly... dramatically... therefore it took less of a pull for all those other things to pull him away.
Makes sense. You've got this! I hope you have a great day.
