Originally Posted by 11dmnds
The crazy thing is I almost wish I had angry or mean messages because at least I would have some idea of where he stands. It’s like he literally just disappeared into thin air except when he comes to get something he wants or notifies me of an action he has made toward him heading the other direction.

The crickets are driving me crazy. If he didnt keep moving forward with S/D I would think he was DB me with NC.


Yup... there were times in the beginning I would have sworn my H was DB with me.... He GAL'd, He 180'd and then was even validating me at times.... holy smoke...

I feel like crap after the angry stuff. I guess because I want to please him --- don't ask me why he is doing me so wrong. But, I'm that kind of person... do me wrong is on you not me and not changing who I am. I work with the general public and sometimes emotions can run high on a good day given what I do.... I always smile and remember that I have no idea what is going on in their world and it may have nothing to do with me. I just go out of my way to be nice and accommodating... and then they leave feeling guilty for how they behaved. MAYBE this is why I'm still so nice to H? That I want to please him because that is how I handle conflict in my work?

I was told that anger was a form of attachment. IDK.

I think for every person who complains about in house separation there is the one person who would be thrilled to have in house separation over out of house separation. That's the crazy part.

He is probably dealing with guilt. Let the guilt stew. Let him get poisoned by his own thoughts without any input from you. You keep doing you.

I know how tough this is!!! HUGS!!