It has been two months since the BD and I can't accept my new reality. I don't know how. Maybe it is because my H has been coming home on the weekends for the last month to work on the house. During this time I have halfheartedly attempted to DB. I tried to do 180's and act as if, but it appears to have put me in the friend zone.
two months is a really short time, so cut yourself some slack. It is impossible for anyone to suddenly be able to detach and accept the new reality in a few months. Even when you think that you've got it under control, your feelings will still come and go.
Originally Posted by MoGirl
I have given away all of my POWER to this man. I am terrified of pulling away from him. What is wrong with me? I am spiraling out of control.
((hugs)) To take your power back, you need to address your fear of losing him. And guess what, you've already lost him! so there is no point to beg or cry or nice him back. Again, focus on yourself. What are some behaviors that you think you can work on for yourself? start with something small. Remember that your H chose to have the affair. He should be the one crying and begging to stay in your life. What "friend" would do that to you? If I were you, I want even less to do with him than being in the friend zone. Put yourself first, you deserve respect.
