Forgiving someone does not mean you have to forget. I think you are very much doing the right thing with this. You really are. You are being the adult and the bigger person. It’s without any doubt the best for your daughter and really it is the best and most healthy for you. You really should be very proud of yourself in how you are handling it. Deep down I think your ex and perhaps even his wife see it and know it.
As for the second job, what better time to do it. It’s not like you are missing out on doing anything. It’s not like your friends are out having fun while you work. You’re not missing anything but are paying down some debt. You won’t have to do this forever. Hopefully when there are things to do you can cut back on the second job and join in. Trust me its much better having something to do than sitting around day after day with nothing to do and no pay check to cash.
Other than the physical aspects (not just sex) you may be doing better. Were you really happier with either of the last two guys? Sure physically and having someone to sleep next to maybe you were but overall I think you have less stress and less anxiety now. No ones life is perfect or even great. On balance I think you’re doing much better than you think or feel you are.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
