You say your ex keeps looking for the new shiny thing to make him happy..... but you kind of do the same thing. You are looking for something, anything outside of yourself for you happiness as well. Whether it be your H, or wanting him to be miserable to make you happy, you are looking for something outside of yourself.
You both are doing the same thing. You had the point where you were looking to other men. And now he’s looking to another woman. Neither of you are looking inward.
You're 1000% right I do this. I was texting my support group leader yesterday about this. I cannot get it through my head that I will ever be happy without a man in my life yet the old me that did find 2 men doesn't exist anymore. Then I cycle back to H thinking somehow it would be different with him now but he hasn't changed. I can't go back (won't work anyway) and I don't know how to move forward either. Does this make any sense??
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You have a job. You have your kids . You can find some hobbies. I know you are working on it. Sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it when we do
I'm fully aware which only frustrates me. All I do is imagine how great H's life is in comparison to mine. Pity party, whine, pathetic I know.
